In this opinion piece, Urooj Arshad, fellow benefactor of the Muslim Alliance for Sexual and Gender Diversity and chief of International LGBTQ Youth Health and Rights Programs at Advocates for Youth, clarifies what she needs her more youthful self to know as an eccentric, Muslim lady.

I experienced childhood in Karachi, Pakistan, in a white collar class family where despite the fact that getting a decent training was a need, I comprehended a sad reality at an opportune time: I was relied upon to wed and focus the necessities of my future spouse and his family over whatever else. At that point, when I was 16, my family surprisingly moved to the United States. I arrived broken and disappointed, yet additionally confident that I could begin another life far from Pakistan, and far from Islam. It was my opportunity to discover bliss and seek after the existence I had constantly needed, which in my psyche implied having the capacity to settle on choices about my life freely of what anybody, including my family, thought; to not need to consider marriage the true objective; to most likely cut out a little space for myself and my thoughts in this immense world.

That was more than 20 years back. When I think back on the disaster I encountered as a youngster, not knowing whether I was going to make it, feeling a profound feeling of separation, I need to compose an affection letter to my more youthful self.

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I need to reveal to her that it won’t be simple sinking into her embraced nation. That nobody would reveal to her that the more that she attempts to acclimatize and overlook where she originates from, the more discouraged she will move toward becoming. The misery will originate from disguising the prejudice she will experience both in secondary school and in school. From occasions such as when an educator inquired as to whether he can call her “Paki” in light of the fact that her name was too hard to even think about pronouncing, and when everybody in class giggled at that joke. Her wretchedness will extend when her dad passes away, three years in the wake of moving, abandoning her family feeling truly defenseless.

I need to reveal to her that when she turns out as eccentric at 19, around the season of her dad’s passing, she will discover next to no sympathy inside the white LGBTQ people group at her school. She will find that her encounters as an ongoing outsider from Pakistan, and her dread about the results of family discovering that she is strange, won’t be relatable for other people. While numerous around her will talk calmly about having LGBTQ individuals in their families, she won’t probably consider “LGBTQ” and “family” in a similar sentence.

What’s more, I need to disclose to her that in spite of everything that she should persist, she will discover her locale of LGBTQ Muslims and non-white individuals who will demonstrate her that it’s conceivable to aggregately battle for a simply world. In 2019, against the background of extremism, she will see her own understanding and personalities spoke to in new and incredible ways.


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